There's a longing that usually passes over me every day.
It's a longing that was filled when I lived with a group of girls
in the coffee house during college.
It's a longing I didn't think much about until I was married with babies.
It's a longing for friends, for close friendship.
Like I mentioned in college I had a close group of girlfriends.
Most of us lived together and we spent time together every day.
After graduation though we all became spread out, living in different places.
That makes it more difficult to be as close.
Then, throw motherhood in there
and some times it feels downright impossible to have friends!
Am I the only mom who struggles with making friends?
It's hard to be as close to my best friends not only because we're in different places,
but we're also in different stages of life.
Most of them are pretty newly married and without kids.
Being friends with women who don't have kids is almost painful sometimes.
When you become a mom your kids become most of your life.
Are they all my life is about? No, but most of my life is about them.
My family is my whole heart and often if you aren't a parent, you don't really get that.
I understand that, but my heart often desperately misses having close friendships.
Friendships change when you get married and again when you have kids.
At least that's my experience.
You can't spend as much time with your friends.
Your time is spent more so with your husband and your kids.
I wouldn't change being married or having kids, of course,
but I wish friendship was easier.
I have a few moms friends, but it feels hard to get to a deeper level
when we have kids running wild.
I long for that though.
I long for girls nights and deeper conversation.
I long for trials and joys being shared.
I long for prayers being prayed for each other.
I long for building friendships not to feel so awkward.
Does that happen to anything other mom?
It's awkward having to meet other moms.
Plus I feel like I'm a bit socially awkward because I don't get out much
and spend most of my time with three kids all under the age of four.
Mom brain + not much stimulating conversations with toddlers and babies,
makes me feel like I've lost a bit of my mind.
Seriously, does any other mom feel this way? Ha ha
It just seems harder to make friends the more I grow and the more babies I have.
I'm trying though and that's what it takes. Trying and getting out.
I'm thankful for the friends I do have, moms or not.
Do you struggle with making friends as a mom?
Do you have any suggestions about the whole thing?