i love this boy with my whole heart.
he was my first baby, the one who made me a mama.
he's special in that way. lately though he's been driving me a bit bonkers.
his listening skills are in need of some major work.
he simply doesn't listen to me. whatsoever.
when i speak to him he pretends he doesn't hear me.
sometimes goes as far to put his hands over his ears.
he runs away. he throws himself on the floor. he screams and throws things.
he hits and kicks his sister.
he feels so out of control and i'm at a loss of what to do about it.
i try everything.
i talk calmly. i put in him in time out. i swat his bottom.
i try to redirect him. on and on the list goes, but nothing works when mom does it.
with dad it's a whole different story.
i feel like a big fat failure when it comes to this boy.
he feels out of control to me and i pray this is just a phase.
i pray that we can figure this out because he feels out of control, but so do i.
i hate feeling out of control.
i hate feeling frustrated and angry.
i hate how i act during these times and i'm sure no one else likes it either.
motherhood is hard. can i get an amen?
amen! I loved the book "Love and Logic Magic." SO good! Helped me so much with listening and temper tantrums!
ReplyDeleteAw Lady! Just keep lovin' that boy and doin' what's best for him! You're doing great!
ReplyDeleteYou can get an amen from me!! This is exactly where we are with our almost 2 yr old :( The other day I just walked away while she lay face down on our kitchen floor screaming. Stay consistent and keep it up you're doing amazing!
ReplyDeleteOh yes, you can get a huge AMEN sister. Toddlers are curious little aliens ;)
ReplyDeleteOk- I've never met your kiddo, so this may not apply AT ALL... but I've had a few friends who pull food dyes/coloring out of their toddlers diets and their aggressiveness has disappeared. No idea if this even applies, but there was a 180 degree difference in this kiddo's behavior, especially toward other toddlers. My toddler will be 2 this week and things are definitely getting tougher. I'm really being stretched to stay consistent-that's never been one of my strengths!
ReplyDeleteAmen, amen, amen, amen.
ReplyDeleteStubborn children are very difficult. I have one as well!
Time-out seems to be working for us. And by "working" I mean she gets up, says sorry or whatever and does it again later...but it gives us both a minute (exactly a minute) to chill out.
Praying for you and Braden! (And Maeva and Husband)
It's a rough time, this discipline era.
Brayden has been the same way-- and I am in NO way saying you are doing something wrong, but I notice Brayden gets this way when he isn't getting enough undivided attention. When Kenley is needy or I am focused on accomplishing somehing? He gets this way. It is HARD to balance it all, girl! :)
ReplyDeleteI've heard The Happiest Toddler on the Block book helps with tantrums and things at this age. Of course, I haven't tried it myself, just heard from others that it does.... Hope it gets better for you girl!
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