Thursday, June 28, 2012

What I want her to know

I've written before about how having a little girl terrifies me a bit. 
If I were to be honest, and that is the plan for these words, there is one reason I am scared. 
Its for her heart as a teenager and young adult.
I remember how sensitive my heart was. Some would say too sensitive. 
I remember how damaged it (and I) felt as I got older.
That scares me for her because that is what I desperately do not want! 

If you've read my testimony you may know a little more about the words I'm writing. 
I was a depressed teenager and even though some may say that is normal, I disagree. 
Feeling so hopeless you ask God to end it all or cutting yourself is NOT normal. 
I also because a depressed young adult who ended up in an awful relationship in college. 
There's a bit more about that in my testimony too.
That is what terrifies me the most. That is what could make me weep with fear. 
I don't want Maeva to follow in my footsteps. Do many parents want that of their kids?
No, I think they want them to be better, to experience better. That's what I hope.

I want Maeva to know that it is okay to hurt over a broken heart. 
That its okay to cry and express what she is feeling.
I want her to know that it is okay to ask for help and come to both of us. 
I want Maeva to know that no matter what has been done (because mistakes will be made) she can come to us and we will love her no matter what.... we will help her no matter what.
I want her, desperately to know, that there is a certain way she is suppose to be treated, 
a certain way she should be treated. 
I want her to know that no boy will completely fill her heart, that her heart, really, 
is for God and her future husband. 
I want her to know that she is meant to be respected - 
not called names, talked down to, hit, or pressured. She is to be treated well. 
I want her to know those things and so much more about these things. 
I know it comes down to her dad and I... 
Protecting her heart, setting limits, and knowing what's going on.
I know its about having open and honest communication with her about these things.
I know its about teaching her about God and what He wants in her life. 
I also know its about trusting God with her and her future.
He wants what is best for her. He loves her more than we do. 

Lord, help us to do this well. To protect her and love her. To show her what You want in her life.
Help us to do the same with Braden. They both need so much from us. Prepare us.


  1. Just by reading this post, I can tell that you are going to do an absolutely wonderful job as her mother. She will know love. She will know her worth.
    You're on the right road, don't worry. You're heart will lead the way!

    Thank you for sharing this bit of your heart with us :)

    1. I hope that I do a wonderful job. I will definitely try my hardest! =)

  2. We have two girls. Baby girl {read; irish twins}. I love having a house of women, so does my husband. We are emotional, we cry, we have drama. We are already instilling in our girls that 1. They are best friends. 2. They are children of God and they are little princesses in his eyes. 3. They are Robertson women (family pride, it also gives them a sense of belonging).
    My parents did this to my sister and I and I would not trade that for the world. You are going to be a great girl momma and with these things in the forefront of your mind, you will do great and raise a great world changer!

    1. Wonderful things to instill! I like that you instill in them that they are princesses in God's eyes! So true! How easy we forget that!

      Thank you for your kind words.

  3. I recommend the book 5 Conversations to Have With Your Daughter! It's a great book...I read it a year or so but I'm thinking of buying it so I can read it again once my daughters (I have a 3 yr old and 1 on the way) grow up a bit more. It's written by a Christian mom of both boys and girls! And, I think she has a book about conversations to have with your sons too...I just haven't had to read that one yet! :)

    1. I think I pinned that book on pinterest! Thanks for reminding me about it! =)
      I should check out both.

  4. sounds to me like she already has a good start to life :)

    I have 2 daughters and a son and let me tell you there is something about a little girl that brings soooooo much joy.

    proverbs 22:6 train a child in the way he should go, and when he is old he will not turn from it.

    1. Aw thank you!
      I definitely look forward to her coming into this world! We both are very excited!

      Good verse... need to memorize it!


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